Time2Believe... In The Actuality of The Christian Man's Mind.

Sometimes my friend brings out my greatest features and other days my friend tells me I am not enough. "My friend" is the mirror. Each and every one of us has a love/hate relationship with the mirror. The main object is to not let the mirror define us. Growing up in a strong Christian home has taught me all of God's truths and promises. However, as I have grown older, some of His promises have become distorted. I know that I am fearfully and wonderfully made BUT I need to look just as good as the other girls, or I won't  _________ (You fill in the blank. Get the cute guy? Fit in, or get any attention) It amazes me how much I have strayed rom the path I "thought" I was walking. God's promises are mine to claim and do not rely on how much I do.

Psalm 139:14 (NIV) says,

  ¹⁴ I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; 
   your works are wonderful, 
   I know that full well. 

THE END. (No BUTS...)

This post is called Time2Believe... In The Actuality of The Christian Man's Mind, because of a recent conversation I had with a Christian guy whom I respect dearly. Our "chat" was what every girl hopes for... a sneak peek into the man's mind :) What he was saying was just basic truth for him... but for me... it was shocking. We began talking about dating in general, which led us to talking about how girls dress. He went on to tell me that girls who wear ripped jeans and jeans with no belt, give off the sign that they don't have enough respect in themselves (I'll let you imagine how the guys thinks of her then). At first I kinda laughed at this idea in my head, but as I thought about it, the truth hit me. Now let me say, I am not saying that Christian girls should not wear ripped jeans or no belt. I do however, think we need to really think about why we are wearing certain clothes. Or what our clothes say about us?

What I have come to realize is that I have been so focused on "making" myself look the part, I forgot what I was trying to obtain. Every girl grows up praying to find and marry prince charming. Now, some people tell me that prince charming does not exist, but I beg to differ. It all depends on how you define him. If prince charming is handsome, caring, loves the Lord, romantic, provides, cherishes his love, and protects her no matter what... He is real. Because all those characteristics describe the way the Christ loves the Church and that is exactly how a husband is suppose to love his wife. But girls, are we dressing and even acting in a way that we are trying to draw the attention of a prince charming... or just a frog (In hopes that when we kiss him and he magically changes?) Sadly, modesty has gotten a bitter taste in the mouths of Christian girls. But let me tell you if you are looking for your prince charming... modesty is the way to go. I am not saying you have to dress in rags, instead have fun with it. God desires us to be attractive and fun, but at the same time He has called us to live set apart lives. It's not easy, I will be honest and upfront about that. But it is my new desire to be attractive in a way that is beautiful, modest, and ultimately God honoring. These 2 scriptures wrap everything up perfectly...


1 Timothy 2:9 (The Message) says, 
"And I want women to get in there with the men in humility before God, not primping before a mirror or chasing the latest fashions but doing something beautiful for God and becoming beautiful doing it."


1 Peter 3:3-4 (NLV) says, 
³ Do not let your beauty come from the outside. It should not be the way you comb your hair or the wearing of gold or the wearing of fine clothes. ⁴ Your beauty should come from the inside. It should come from the heart. This is the kind that lasts. Your beauty should be a gentle and quiet spirit. In God’s sight this is of great worth and no amount of money can buy it.


I am done being obsessed with my outer appearance, instead I pray that God will cultivated a woman of strong faith in my heart, so the I will one day attract the prince charming His has chosen for me.